I didn’t blog yesterday. I was feeling sad because the HR didn’t call me. And it was the same today. Finally, with trepidation and desperation I called him up and found that they have a huge list of candidates to cater to and they will be done with their internal processes by tomorrow end. So now, the new news is that they will be calling me on the next Monday….LOL. I don’t have any other options than to listen and believe what he says. So, that’s all for it as of now.
I have a question. Is it normal to feel insecure when your lady/guy is good friends with people from the opposite gender? I expect that the answers, if at all they come, be true and for real….and for the more enlightened ones, feel free to provide suggestions too…..
Personally, I will feel insecure. And though I may take friendship as normal, but anything that has intimacy or deep understanding will for sure hurt me……and yes you can say that I am “ ”…......u can take ur pick and fill it up……:)
I think it is common to feel insecure about your partner's relationships with members of the opposite sex. However, jealousy can kill a relationship. I think it's important to be able to tell your partner that you are feeling insecure and for your partner to note that your feelings are valid. But, you can't linger on these emotions. You have the conversation and then all you can do is trust your partner.
ReplyDeleteWhile it's true that sexual attraction is often natural between friends of the opposite sex (or the same sex for that matter!), we have the ability to choose not to act on them.
@ MJ: Yeah...what you say is perfect. Though i sometimes do cross the line and behave insanely...
ReplyDeletewell this is going to sound really weird, I make really easy and close friends with guys than I do girls but my man is totally cool with it. But when my man is friends with girls, I tend to find myself feeling jealous and insecure. I think it's probably because I know the girls are on their way to developing a serious crush on him because he is that kind of a person. But I do trust him fully, that is most important in the relationship.
ReplyDelete@farah: I can make friends equally alike but i guess my straightforwardness and arrogance doesnt go well by people ofboth genders. Nez..i belive her and often question myself on that but more than often, i get hurt...with time however i come over it somehow...TRUST certainly is the key.
ReplyDeleteAwww..itz okay to feel insecure...u just have to trust her on that..dont worry.. :)
ReplyDeletelol hahaha its so sweet of you to admit that you actually feel insecure..personally i don't but i can imagine that a guy would :P
ReplyDeletewhat is insecurity about? do we really need to think if we trust r partner coz of this feeling? does this feeling call for a trust check?
ReplyDeletei think its more of a feeling that "I wanna be in that part of his/her life too" or "I am her/his best buddy, then what is he/she doing here?". Well about that a person is complete with his/her partner but then a partner is needed for life and in the long journey of what life is and in the experiences of life there are many people whom we meet. A partner should be there for support and understanding. But if they try to take someone else's place too in their partner's life then its wrong because every relation has it meaning and boundaries defined. Partners should respect each others relations will people around them and understand them that they have the highest priority in their partner's life; but hey man what about priority 2,3,4....? Think and Decide. Is it trust that you need to think about or is it you getting into someone else's space who is also a part , however tiny it may be, but still a part in your partner's life- like a friend who has helped in difficult times. Is it okay to let go of them coz our partners feel insecure? Is this what they deserve for being there for us? Is their gender such an issue that they may actually loose out a friend?
The key is to discuss the problem, convey that you are uncomfortable but at the same time when you are told that "You are the most important person in my life", then PLEASE actually belive your partner, coz otherwise he/she wouldnt be discussing this with you right now.
I have been on the taking side of it, n believe me dude the grass is "not" greener on the other side....
@NoFaLrYtAIE: Simple right?
ReplyDelete@Aiesh: Great insight. :)
@Anonymous: It seems that grass is never green.. :P
But yes, what you said is different and convincing. It has put me into a thinking mode...